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9 Secrets to Better Speaking
by Arvee Robinson
You’re at a huge networking event. Nervously, you glance around the
room and see many familiar faces. Some of the faces are new and are
even smiling. These are the faces of your fellow club members. You
have talked to them many times on many different occasions. So why
should this be any different? Why do you have a big knot in your
stomach? Why do you have an overwhelming desire to run? Why? Because
tonight, YOU are the speaker. This is the first time you’ll formally
speak in front of your peers. Are you ready?
1. READY, SET, GO
When does your speech actually start? When you arrive at the
lectern? Does it begin with the first utterance of a sound or word?
No. Your presentation begins the minute the emcee begins to talk
about you. The audience automatically sweeps the crowd searching for
the speaker. Keep poised and confident. Remember all eyes are on
you!
2. RISE TO THE OCCASION
The emcee announces your name, and the audience breaks out into
applause. Now it’s time to rise to the occasion. All eyes are on
you, watching you. Gracefully rise out of your chair, stand tall,
and slowly walk toward center stage. Take your time walking. The
more time you take walking, the more status your audience will
subconsciously give you. Let the audience’s clapping carry you to
the stage as if you were gliding on a magic carpet. Remember to
watch where you are walking. There could be cords and wires on the
ground or chair legs in your path. Any one of these obstacles could
cause you to have a nice trip. If something awkward should happen on
your way to the lectern, remain calm and use humor. Using humor
connects people and is more effective than using self-deprecating
remarks. Let your audience know that there’s nothing to worry about,
you’re okay, and the show will go on. I remember seeing Robert
Allen, famous author and millionaire, fall off the stage moments
after he arrived. Instantly, he jumped back up on stage and poked
fun at the hotel stage lighting, which had caused his fall. Allen’s
humor set the audience at ease, and they roared with laughter at his
quick wit.
3. THE MOMENT BEFORE
Now, you can see your way clear to the lectern. The closer you get,
the more nervous you feel. Not to worry, I have a theatre secret for
you. Ever wonder how actors can just walk on stage as if they’re
already in motion? It’s easy; they use techniques. One popular
technique is called the moment before. The moment before is a trade
secret actors use to create action before they walk on stage so they
enter already in motion. The moment before is that moment right
before you walk onto the stage. Actors create an action or simply a
thought to propel themselves into the moment. So to keep your
butterflies in check, as you are walking to the lectern, use this
technique. For example, an actor might be thinking, “Yuk, I see a
big spider!” For the speaker, you might be thinking to yourself as
you hear the applause, “They love me”; “I’m going to give a great
speech!” These simple statements will do two things. First, you’ll
already be active and ready to deliver your speech. Second, you’ll
give your mind something to do other than think about how nervous
you are. Consequently, you’ll eliminate any signs of nervousness—for
the time being anyway.
4. LECTERN VS. PODIUM
You made it to the lectern. Before we continue, let me say this
about the lectern. The lectern is not a podium, and a podium is not
the same thing as a lectern. The most common mistake speakers make
is calling the lectern a podium. Webster’s Revised Unabridged
Dictionary’s defines a lectern as “an upright desk or stand with a
slanted top used to hold a text at the proper height for a
lecturer,” whereas a podium is “an elevated platform for an
orchestra conductor or public speaker.” Podium comes from the word
Podiatry, the profession dealing with the care of feet. An easy way
to remember this is to think of a podium as a platform where you put
your feet. This trick could save you from the embarrassment of
confusing the words podium and lectern.
5. WHEN YOU ARRIVE
Okay, you have finally arrived at the lectern on the podium after
what seemed like a very long walk. Before you utter a word, take
time to adjust the microphone and prepare yourself. Stand 10 to 12
inches behind the lectern. Take a moment to scan your audience with
your eyes as if in one smooth, wave motion with a genuine smile.
Take a beat before you speak. Breathe and then start with your
opening line. Taking this moment will instantly put you at ease and
help you to connect to your audience.
6. THE OPENING
The first words out of your mouth should be an attention grabber!
The best speeches are organized into three parts, a beginning, a
middle, and an end. Your opening line must grab your audience’s
attention and arouse interest in your topic. Examples of a good
opening are
1. Enrolling questions
2. Staggering statistical statements
3. Statements of declaration
Once, I heard a speaker begin his speech with “I’m late, I’m late,
I’m late!” He said it with such emotion that the audience could
actually feel his frustration with being late. Another statement of
declaration used by a young college student was, “I’m tired of being
a grunt!” That one turned heads. Whether you choose to start with a
statement of declaration, enrolling questions, or a staggering
statistical statement, make it appropriate for your audience and tie
it back to your speech topic.
7. DON’T LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT
Whatever you do before, during, and after your speech do not
apologize! A common mistake new speakers make is to begin their
speech with an apologetic statement. “Sorry, I’m late.” “Forgive me
for not being prepared.” “I’m so nervous.” These statements are
self-sabotaging. Don’t do it. No one has to know that you’re nervous
and, quite frankly, the audience won’t know it unless you tell them.
Furthermore, most symptoms of nervousness don’t even show. For
instance, your audience can’t see your sweaty palms, hear your heart
racing, or feel your soaring butterflies in the pit of your stomach.
So don’t tell them.
There are many techniques to reduce nervousness and many books
written on the subject. These books are full of tricks as simple as
deep breathing exercises to the more complex methods such as
hypnotherapy. However, I believe there is only one technique that
really
works. Remember the three rules of real estate? Location, location,
location. The three rules of public speaking are practice, practice,
practice. The best way to reduce and eventually eliminate
nervousness is practice. Get up and speak whenever you get the
opportunity. Rehearse your speech and get up and deliver it to your
audience. The more you speak, the less nervous you will be. So
remember, don’t ever let them see you sweat, even if you are.
8. TREAT THE LECTERN AS YOU WOULD A CHILD
Never leave the lectern unattended. You would never walk away and
leave a child alone in a supermarket or in a train station, would
you? No, that would be absurd. Yet, how many times have you seen
emcees announce the speaker and just walk away? Every member of the
audience feels this public display of awkwardness. Not to mention
the speaker having to either cover up or make up for the lack of
interaction. And how about the speaker who ends his speech and
marches off the stage, leaving the lectern alone? The emcee quickly
and perhaps awkwardly rushes to take charge of the situation. When
the speech is over, the speaker should return the lectern to the
emcee. It works both ways.
In either case, this poor protocol can easily be avoided if you
remember to treat the lectern as a child and never leave it
unattended. Let me make myself clear. I’m not saying that you should
deliver your entire speech from behind this wooded barricade. No.
When the lectern is turned over to you as a speaker, you are free to
move about, returning to the lectern from time to time as needed.
I’m referring to when you are finished with your speech. Wait
patiently at the lectern, enjoying the applause, until the emcee
takes charge of the lectern. Think of a relay race where the runner
passes a baton to another runner before slowing her pace. Once the
baton is passed, the passing runner is finished.
If your job is to introduce the speaker, after you announce his
name, stay at the lectern until he arrives. In the United States, it
is customary to shake hands as a professional courtesy. Stay at the
lectern and greet your speaker; then gracefully leave without
upstaging your guest. Since not all emcees and speakers will have
read this article and know what to do, tell them; explain it to them
before the event and eliminate a potentially awkward moment.
Never touch the lectern inappropriately. Most of us would never
dream of hitting, grabbing, or leaning on a child. Yet, I see
speakers sprawled all over the lectern as they speak. Often new
presenters are so nervous they grab the edges of the lectern so
tightly their knuckles turn white. Then there are those people who
beat or pound on the lectern to drive a point home, leaving the
audience feeling very defensive. The major problem with treating the
lectern this way, outside of offending your audience, is that it
distracts your audience and prevents them from hearing what you have
to say. It helps to stand 10 to 12 inches behind the lectern to
avoid the temptation of touching it inappropriately.
9. LOVE MEANS NEVER HAVING TO SAY THANK YOU
Remember Love Story? It was a popular movie made in 1970 starring
Ryan O’Neal and Ali MacGraw. In one scene, Ryan’s character, Oliver
Barrett IV, and Ali’s character, Jennifer Cavilleri, have a love
spat and Jennifer takes off. After combing the city all night
looking for Jennifer, Ryan finds her sitting on the doorstep of
their apartment. Oliver apologizes. Jennifer with tears streaming
down her cheeks looks up at him and says, “Love means never having
to say you’re sorry.” That’s right! And when it comes to thank-yous,
the same is true for speakers. You have just given a brilliant
speech. The audience loves you. The audience wants more. And you end
it with “thank you.” Thank you? Why are you saying thank you? It’s
the audience that should be thanking you! End your speech with a
powerful statement that moves your audience into action. Develop an
ending your audience will remember. Create an ending that compels
your audience to say “thank you” to you. Or better yet, an ending
that already says, “You’re welcome.”
These are just a few of the secrets that professional speakers use
to deliver powerful presentations. By using these simple techniques,
you too can command your audience’s attention, keep their interest,
and move them into action. You’re now ready to speak.
Arvee Robinson
is a Persuasive Speech Coach and President of Power Living
Enterprises. She works with Service Professionals and Business
Owners who want to attract more clients by communicating more
clearly about what they do. She teaches them simple, proven systems
for delivering persuasive business speeches, getting the most out of
networking, and creating a 30-Second Magnetic Introduction. Arvee
has helped hundreds of individuals to eliminate nervousness, command
their audiences’ attention, and develop and deliver sales-winning
presentations. Additionally, Arvee is a group leader of two
networking groups. She is a Distinguished
Toastmaster, the highest achievement in Toastmasters International,
an organization dedicated to promoting speaking and leadership
skills.
Arvee offers one-on-one coaching, corporate training,
workshops, and teleclasses and is available to speak at your
organization. To contact Arvee, please email arvee@instantprospeaker.com
or call
(909) 626-5521.
ã2005 Arvee Robinson
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